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Has someone you know died?

Bereavement Advice for children and young people

If you know someone who has recently died who is important to you, there is help out there for you. It can feel very lonely. The feelings we have about this are called ‘grief’ and every one experiences it differently. It can include shock, anger, numbness, guilt and much more. Feeling numb, or having no feelings at all is common as you cope with the death of someone.

Many people feel they can’t go on with day to day life and people get behind with school work, drop out of clubs or activities because it is all too much.

If someone in your family has died this can mean a lot of change in the family and will mean other people are also grieving. It’s good to remember that we all experience grief differently there is no right way to be sad about a death. Supporting each other is important.

The main thing to remember is that you are not alone and there are people out there who will want to help and some who have experienced what you are experiencing.

Some people find it really helpful to talk to friends, teachers or other adults that are trusted. Talking really does help.

You can get help from your GP and they will be able to help you find a local agency to talk to if you want that.

Some of the local organisations you can use are:

National helplines:

Child Bereavement UK website

If someone important to you has just died, or you have just found out they are very seriously ill, you are not alone and you can get help and support. If you need to talk to someone please call 01494 568900 – your call will be confidential.

Cruse Bereavement website

There is a national helpline you can use from Cruse 0808 808 1677

Winstons Wish is a charity for bereaved children

Many people ask how long will I feel like this, well it is different for all and feelings come and go. Be patient with yourself and remember you are still able to laugh and have fun this doesn’t mean that you have forgotten the person or they mean less to you.

Local agency

CHUMS Bereavement Service website

Offer support in a variety of ways to children, young people and their families across Luton and Bedfordshire